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| Q: | I was discussing Christianity with my future wife who is not a Christian, and one point that she raised was why discuss religion. All it does is tear people apart. Wars have been started, relationships have been broken, and so many denominations hate each other because of a different belief in a God that they think is true. That makes me wonder why I need to have her convert to Christianity and my way of thinking. Why can't we just get along. If there is a heaven, I will be in it and when I am there I will have perfect bliss and it doesn't matter if my wife is there or not. That way we can live life on earth without any religous conflict. So I guess my question is, why does it matter to discuss religion with people that you love if it just causes conflict? | ||||||
| A: | It appears you have some fundamental misconceptions about Christianity that you will have to come to grips with if you want to represent Christianity accurately to your future wife. First, Christianity is not merely a human idea or your "way of thinking." It is the only way to a right standing with the almighty God and eternal life, and it was revealed to us by God himself when he gave us the Bible. Second, Christianity does not cause division or conflict. Sinful human beings do that when they reject it, misrepresent it, or fail to understand its truths. As far as personal relationships like marriage are concerned, it has been my experience that nothing bonds husband and wife more closely than a common Christian faith. Third, heaven is not an "if." God's religion, Christianity, reveals that heaven is as much a reality as the life you are living right now. Fourth, the only alternative to heaven after one dies is hell. Hell is a real place of forever suffering that awaits all those who die apart from believing in Jesus Christ as their personal Savior from sin. I can't imagine that you would want that for the woman you're going to marry. It's true that nothing would disrupt the eternal bliss you'll have in heaven. But, if your wife's being in hell won't bother you then, shouldn't it bother you now? Nothing will help your future marriage more than a mutual trust in Jesus for the forgiveness of sins. I urge you and your future wife to attend some pre-marital counseling with a Christian pastor who is able to instruct in what God says in his Word about marriage. | ||||||
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